Do you often feel misunderstood? Do you try to help others, or advise them, and find that they take it badly? Do you find that people seem to take things the wrong way? The feeling of being misunderstood can be painfully frustrating, and can lead to feelings of despondency, rejection, hopelessness and more.
The great news is that you don’t need to rely on others to understand you; if you find that you are frequently feeling that you are misunderstood, it means there are references in your subconscious that support the “reality” that you are misunderstood. Change those references, and you change the reality.
How to be Misunderstood
Being misunderstood is a skill — it may not seem like it; but not everyone can be misunderstood. There is a skill to picking the right people who will be able to misunderstand you, and communicating with those people in such a way that they take what you say and do in the wrong way. You’ll notice that not everyone is misunderstood — only certain people are able to pull that off.
If you find that you are feeling misunderstood a lot of the, there is nothing wrong with you — in fact, you are working perfectly according to the programming you’re carrying in your subconscious — you just need to change what you’re holding.
This is great news — since you can’t make other people change, the fact that you can change your experience by changing what you hold in your subconscious means that from now on, you have complete control over what you experience!
How to Clear the Pattern of Being Misunderstood
The first step in clearing the pattern of being misunderstood is to make the conscious decision to let it go. There may be a part of you that has identified with being misunderstood — and if this is the case, you may find you have some resistance to letting go.
You may find part of you arguing that it is the others who need to change, who need to be more understanding, and who need to clear their own programming. And you may be right; however, there is no way for you to make them change. The only person you have full control over is yourself; so if you find that argument coming up inside you, gently remind yourself of this fact.
The second step is to change the original records using FasterEFT. Take a moment to feel the feeling of being misunderstood. Think of the last time you felt it really strongly — feel the feeling again. Now, think back to when you’ve felt that feeling before. What is the earliest memory you can recall of having this feeling?
Then, use the FasterEFT Technique to tap out the feeling and flip the memory. Keep repeating the process until the memory has completely flipped. Once you’ve done this, go to the memory you went to before — the strongest recent memory you have of being misunderstood, and notice if the feeling is still there. If it is, notice how strong it is, and then tap on that memory until the feeling has changed and that memory has completely flipped.
From now on, whenever you feel the feeling of being misunderstood, use FasterEFT immediately, in the moment to change that feeling. The sooner you start tapping it out, the easier it will be and the quicker it will change.
If there are people around and you can’t tap physically, use Mental Tapping instead, but make sure you address it right then, in the moment without allowing yourself to get too deep into the feeling.
For more information on how the subconscious records are created and how they affect daily life, read: The REAL Cause of All Your Problems.
For detailed guidance on using FasterEFT read: The FasterEFT Technique — Step-by-Step.
To watch videos on FasterEFT, and to see how it’s helped others, visit theFasterEFT YouTube Channel.
Originally published at fastereft.com on May 9, 2016.